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Mr Paul

A man ask me this question in the church last sunday:
Can a husband and a wife live together without fighting each other at all?
I answered him; but
What is your own contribution?
Please, give your answer with reason or prove.

Spottykay

there is no way they must fight

Mr Paul

You didnt give reason or prove for your answer spottykay.

Spottykay

you know everytime or once in a while there must be a disagreement

Mr Paul

Yes, but the methods of settling disagreement is what can either mar or make marriage.

Daniel Michael

Misunderstanding is wat we human beings cannot avoid, we are all bound 2 make mistakes, meanwhile wat rili matters most is how fast the couples get 2 forgive nd forget each other mistakes.

Mr Paul

@Daniel Michael, you have got it right; that just it: we are all human beings; knowing how to settle matters, forgiving and forgeting offences is the real key to happy marriage.

Sir-Phil

Its very possible to live without any chaos, Look at Abraham in the Bible. The only misunderstanding they had was about Ishmael, which am not sure it took a minute before they agreed on something. Thats an exemplary life for every Christian couples

Mr Paul

@Sir-phil,you got it all wrong: even if you marry an angel; misunderstanding will surface.
I did have the same thought like yours when l was single;thinking that christian home is exactly a heaven;l want to tell you something:as l married a woman who is as gentle as a dove, there are some times(though on rare accassion) that we still have misunderstanding, even through her ulterance.
You will remember this one day: experience is the best master o.
The only difference is that a christian couple knows how to settle quarrels amicably.
Look at the example of Abraham you gave; at least it was recorded that they had quarrel once in the bible;do you think the bible can record 1/100 (one out of hundred) of their marital experience on earth?
Do you know the number of times they must have had misunderstanding, which were not recorded in the bible?
The Bible just recorded the one we need to learn something from.
My brother, is it not possible in marriage, but we settle it very fast as christians.

Sir-Phil

We just hope it doesnt get out of control, no matter what it may be

Mr Paul

That is just it; children of God put it under control.
And one important thing: true christian couples dont call on the third party to settle quarrel for them; its even wrong to call on parents or relatives to settle matters in one's family; any time such begins to happen in a christian home, things are going wrong already.
A woman told me her successful marriage secret some years back(in 2008) that her children gathered together to celebrate 10years of no-fighting between her and her husband: its a beautiful story; she then told me that she has quarrels with her husband sometimes, but their children can never know there's any of such, because they settle it amicably in the bedroom, without the knowledge of their children; now their children are thinking that their parents dont have any misundertanding for ten years: what a wonderful testimony !

Sir-Phil

Good testimony indeed.

Mr Paul

In fact, a remarkable testimony !

Sir-Phil

I hope to shear a similar testimony someday

Mr Paul

May God see you through.

Sir-Phil

AMEN!

Mr Paul

But let me ask you one important question:
What are the two qualities that can make a wife at home submit totally to her husband, despite the nature of a woman?

Sir-Phil

Let me guess, Love and Respect

Mr Paul

I know you tried, but before a woman can respect her husband, something spiritual must have happened in her life; what is that something spiritual?
***Note: its not possible/easy for a woman to submit without these two qualities.

Sir-Phil

She must be God fearing and prayerful.

Mr Paul

You have tried all the while my brother.
But let me tell you this; there has not been any woman who trully submits to her husband without 'Conversion' of her soul and 'Circumcision' of the heart.
If you notice any woman who seems to be submissive, but doesnt possess the above qualities, it's fake: she has something underneath.

Sir-Phil

Conversion of the Soul and Circumsation of the Heart.
I 've heard this before but never understood the contex. Now its clear to me. We all live by learning.

Mr Paul

Yes, conversion makes it easy for the woman to understand God and real humility, while circumcision makes it easy for the her to obey God and be humble in a real sense of it.
Just as it is for all believers:-
We understand God and his precepts through conversion and easily obey Him(without force) through circumcision.

Sir-Phil

You are indeed a man of God. Am glad you are with us

Mr Paul

Its well my brother;
Glory be to God, the Giver of all knowledge !

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